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A Biblical Response to the Abused Wife

A letter from an emotionally battered woman prompted this. She is from a denomination that believes you are married for life even if you married the devil's disciple himself...nothing could be further from the truth. Can a woman of God be fooled by an abuser into marriage...YOU BET! They are masters at disguising themselves and their intent to dominate a woman. They particularly like to pick women who are very religious and naively believe marriage will solve all their problems and loneliness. They are adept at misusing scripture to guilt their wives into staying in their cycle of abuse.
Truthfully, abuse whether physical or emotional, is the deal-breaker in a covenant relationship! Diane from Portsmouth this is for you and all the women who are held captive by ridiculous unbiblical denominations who hold marriage as permanent to an abuser. Please read the whole paper to understand why God would not condemn a woman or man from leaving their abusive covenant partner. If the readers …

Message From A Man...You Are Not Crazy

The author's name is Yasher and he tells it like it is:A Message To Women From A Man: You Are Not “Crazy” You’re so sensitive. You’re so emotional. You’re defensive. You’re overreacting. Calm down. Relax. Stop freaking out! You’re crazy! I was just joking, don’t you have a sense of humor? You’re so dramatic. Just get over it already! Sound familiar? If you’re a woman, it probably does. Do you ever hear any of these comments from your spouse or boyfriend? When someone says these things to you, it’s not an example of inconsiderate behavior. When your spouse shows up half an hour late to dinner without calling—that’s inconsiderate behavior. A remark intended to shut you down like, “Calm down, you’re overreacting,” after you just addressed someone else’s bad behavior, is emotional manipulation—pure and simple. And this is the sort of emotional manipulation that feeds an epidemic in our country, an epidemic that defines women as crazy, irrational, overly sensitive, unhinged. This epid…

What Does Submission To A Spouse Really Mean?

This  post is taken from Divorce Hope, a Christian site dedicated to making Christians aware of their responsibilities without shackling them with undue guilt and shame.
Submission to our spouse is never greater than our submission to God and His wisdom. Some people actually think God gives us the liberty to have another god before us. That is just not so (See Exodus 20:3). We must always submit to God first. He knows what decisions to make. As we submit to God and to one another He uses these situations to mature us, to bless us, and to reveal our own weaknesses. This results in our seeking Him all the more. “For when I am weak, THEN I am strong” (2Corinthians 12:10b).

There are all kinds of daily situations where one must submit to another. Husbands and wives need to make decisions daily about certain things. These decisions are not always to separate the good from the evil, but deciding what’s the best thing to do in a particular situation.

For example, we may need a car, but what ki…

Do You Suffer From Poor Memory And/Or Anxiety? Your Spouse Could Be The Source

Maybe you used to pride yourself on your organizational skills and memory. You had to keep up with a multitude of things because you had a large family or family members in need of help and not much help from a very self-involved husband(or wife)! Over time he(she) took away your self-confidence, your health, and your sense of well-being because he(she) is a practicing FOOL OF BIBLICAL PROPORTION! Over time you have suffered from health issues, memory loss-anxiety, and have questioned your own sanity at times. You suffer the affects of PTSD to some degree.I know about it, so does every soldier who ever went to war! Ladies(men) you are living with your enemy!!! By the way the real cost is to your children, because one or all will become just like your abuser.

A Narcissist's Emotional and Verbal Abuse Harm To Your Brain Dr. Diane England, PhD
It wasn’t that long ago that most neuroscientists th…

Still Waiting For A Good Marriage With A Bad Partner?

The following is an article from Self Growth, by Dr. Diane England, PhD. It is a very thought provoking article for women who may or may not have realized they are married to either a Borderline or Malignant Narcissistic Personality. Having been a pastoral and biblical counselor, I can tell you that the after-effects are devastating over a period of years and could cost you your sanity and your health. Please heed what Dr. England has to say on this subject:

When you said your vows, what were you expecting? I suspect if you were like most women, you thought you were entering a partnership. You would enjoy shared power, right?
I bet you've discovered something quite different, though. I bet he likes to have power over you, isn't that so? And to ensure he achieves and maintains this, he might well use emotional abuse, verbal abuse, economic abuse, and even sexual abuse, too. I am talking about non-consensual sex.

The thing is, you might not even realize that your relationship with …