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What Does a Christian Family Look Like- A Grace Perspective

As a Biblical counselor I can recall the one thing that domineering and egotistical males could recite was the verses on submission. They would use these verses to bolster their authority, however their actions in the home clearly reflected a lack of Christ-likeness.  They would actually get indignant when I refused to take up their cause. You see gentlemen, the act of submission is this way: as the man submits his will to Christ and humbles himself as a shepherd-leader by example in the home, then and only then would a wife be willing to submit to his headship. You see a leader who commands but does not lead by example is not submissive to the will of Christ. Jesus humbled himself to leave the glory He shared with the Father to take on mortal flesh, live a perfect life so he could become that sinless lamb needed for sacrifice once for all, suffer horribly unto death at the hands of the creation He came to save. Gentlemen, until you are willing to die to self, and leave all your wants…

Submission vs. Coercion in Marriage- A Grace Perspective

There are so many dysfunctional marriages in the world. The men who lead these families have no idea what real "servant leadership" works like. They make demands and expect everyone to fall in line. When they finally lose their family because of foolish thinking and behavior they want to blame everyone but their own selfish stupidity. "WHAT WENT WRONG?" they asked bitterly. They went to church every Sunday...well at least most Sundays but they would not serve others. Most worked hard and made a good living, sure they spent most of the money on themselves because they worked so hard, but "hey, she had a nice roof over her head clothes to wear and food to eat." Some even gave up some weekends to go on vacations but they were in a hurry to get it over with so they could go play. Some nurtured  their bodies so their wives would see them as "hot at any age," however that meant they spent less time nurturing their children and wives needs and spent mo…

Wisdom And Best Laid Plans

Have you ever talked to or tried to reason with a fool? Their reasoning is...well...UNREASONABLE! The Bible warns throughout Proverbs that avoiding a fool is the best remedy to prevent confusion and heartache. Perhaps you know one intimately? The New Testament gives us practical ways to understand that a fool's reasoning is folly and not to follow it. Fools have no grace for those of the faith...you will never measure up to a fool's reasoning and yet they do not hold the same standard for themselves. In other words they lack WISDOM, the most important kind...Biblical WISDOM!

To suggest that wisdom is always balanced seems to me to be a bit, well, unbalanced. Whoever first uttered the words of wisdom, “moderation in all things,” should, I believe, have healed himself. All things? Isn’t that a bit extreme? In like manner, wisdom is almost always balanced. We need to measure the wisdom of looking before we leap with the equally potent conviction that he who hesitates is lost. We…

Plain Speaking vs Mealy-mouthed speaking

Definition of plain is: 1.Not intricate or difficult; evident; manifest; obvious; clear; unmistakable. "'T is a plain case." --Shak. [1913 Webster] 2.(a) Void of extraneous beauty or ornament; without conspicious embellishment; not rich; simple. (b) Not highly cultivated; unsophisticated; free from show or pretension; simple; natural; homely; common. "Plain yet pious Christians." --Hammond. "The plain people." --A. Lincoln. (c) Free from affectation or beings disguise; candid; sincere; artless; honest; frank. "An honest mind, and plain." --Shak. meal·y-mouthedmee-lee-moutht,-mouthd]Show IPAadjective
avoidingtheuseofdirectandplainlanguage, asfromtimidity,excessivedelicacy,orhypocrisy;inclinedtomincewords;insincere,devious,orcompromising. How do you like the definition of mealy-mouthed?  All of us need learn when we are being spoken to in a way that offe…