A World Without A Conscience

I'm losing readers faster than the time it takes a rabbit to jump from hole to hole, but if that is the cost of telling the truth and lifting up our God before the world then so be it. Friends, we are world in trouble. We have invited the enemy of our souls to feast on us any time he feels like it. We have put God on the shelf, walked away from doing right, and marched to the tune the enemy of our soul would play. He's laughing! He knows that he has us in the palm of his hand because we are ashamed but don't want to admit or allow anyone to see it. We idolize the wrong things, when we think no one is looking we lie cheat, steal, commit acts that we normally would not. We have become a world without conscience:

5 Must-Haves to Porn-Proof Our Marriages

By JT Waresak
Watch. Resolve. Share.
I grew up in an era where the prevailing thought was, "You can look as long as you don't touch." Sadly, this was the "manly motto" that most boys heard as they matured into young men.  It was a lie then, and it is still a lie today. The natural outcome of this philosophy has led millions of boys and men into a pattern of porn that has reached pandemic proportions. Beyond despairing is the undeniable fact that, as Christians, our lives aren’t much different when it comes to controlling what we put in front of our eyes.
At the core of this issue is the reality that pornography itself is not the root of the problem. In some sense, pornography has and will always be available. The true dilemma here is that we have placed ourselves before God and our wives. It's a heart issue. As men, we will protect what matters most to us. If we don’t take the action needed to protect something, we really don’t care too much about it.  
My adult daughter recently shared that she was watching a sporting event on T.V. with a group of twenty-something friends that included several young men. A commercial came on that displayed scantly-dressed female models. Some would say the commercial was "soft-porn." As she and other young ladies sat uncomfortably around this group of young men, not one of them had the conviction to get up and turn off the T.V., or at least turn the channel. This scene epitomizes today’s man when it comes to the topic of immodesty and pornography. We lack godly-resolve that compels us to actively protect what should matter most to us. This must change.
As a Christian man that is married, I have two life-priorities that need to take highest precedence: my relationship with God and my relationship with my wife. These relationships define me as a man and compel how I live my life. By God’s grace, he has blessed me with children and my role as a father is added to this life-defining relationship list. Within each God-defined relationship, I am called to love in a manner that places others before myself. I must relentlessly pursue a course of life that positions God, my wife and my children before myself.  
When it comes to protecting what matters most, I must resolve to have eyes that honor my God, my wife and my children. If this "resolved-eyes" resolution means anything, it necessitates my highest commitment to the protection and provision around these relationships.  If I say that Jesus Christ is my everything, my everything must truly be His.  
I'm reminded of a young Jew named Daniel who purposed in his heart not to defile God with his life (Daniel 1:8). To have resolved eyes, we must first have a resolved heart. This doesn't mean we'll ever be perfect, but what it does mean is that we will never give up our pursuit to put God and our families before ourselves (Matthew 6:33).
For me, this is a daily pursuit of taking care of what matters most. I am compelled to continually engage the battlefronts around these relationships. If I'm not actively fighting the battle, I'm losing it. Given the unabashed access to immodest and porn-laced web content, the online world in which we all live must be perceived as a huge battlefront of epic proportion. Hence, step one requires that we discern the enemy's tactics and strategize a plan to defeat them. Here are my "5 Must-Haves" when it comes to this battle-front strategy to "porn-proof" our marriages (and families). While they pertain specifically toward husbands, I believe the principles apply for wives as well:
1. Keeping God at the center of my life. I must daily take in God’s truth and grace through His Word, knowing what I take in on a regular basis will define who I am and how I live. We're called to "renew" our minds, "set our minds on things above" and not on the things of this earth (Colossians 3:2) and to think about things that are "honorable, whatever just...pure...lovely... commendable...worthy of praise" (Philippians 4:8).  
2. Maintain an uncompromising love for God and my wife.  Any form of immodesty that could lead toward lust must not be something I willingly put in front of my eyes. As important, I must protect my family from it as well. This certainly means that any form of porn, however loosely-defined, is something that I will not tolerate in my life. I've often shared with my children that if it's wrong before God, it's wrong before us. From a very practical standpoint, this will greatly limit the entertainment in my life and the movies I will see. It is a small sacrifice to give up for the sake of my walk with God, my wife and my kids. 
3. Total Transparency before God and my wife. My online activities are an open book for anyone to see - especially my wife. Filters are also great. Yet, the greatest "filter" needs to be God's Spirit within me. I must embrace the Coram Deo life, i.e. that I live my life before the ever-presence of God within me (my body is His temple - 1 Cor. 6:19-20).  
4.  Keep the battle in front of us. I talk about this topic on a regular basis with my wife and children (age appropriate, of course). My teen and young adult children know that the online and entertainment world is a battlefront that requires the full armor of God. They know that like anything else in life, the battle-readiness starts with God Himself. He is our source of power in this battle. His grace and truth rule and provide us our greatest offense and defense. 
5.  Pulling together to fight the good fight. Going beyond my own family, we need to be addressing this issue at the "body" and church-wide level. Not only are marriages and families being destroyed, our witness for Christ is being greatly weakened. In Christ, we live in community. I pray that our pastors and men within our churches make this a regular topic of conversation. Resolved eyes must become a priority and a life-mission where we seek to protect what matters most. What are we saying if we don't?
Wives and moms out there, we need you to fight the battle with us. We need your prayers, encouragement and help. If you're a single-mom, reach out to a male relative, your pastor or other godly man that can assist you in building this life-principle into the heart of your son. Every boy and man out there needs to have a mentor to stand alongside them in this battle. We can't go it alone.
No doubt we have taken some serious hits and losses when it comes to pornography. However, the battle is not over. Regardless of our past, Christ calls us to walk with Him in the present. Like Daniel, we can resolve in our hearts not to defile ourselves before God. We can choose God, our wives and our children over this world and the lust of the eyes it will offer us. In Christ, we can have resolved eyes.  
"But Daniel resolved that he would not defile himself..."  Daniel 1:8

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